Affection is the basis of all lasting relationships, but must be channeled properly in order to bring satisfaction and support the self-esteem of both parties. For example, a married person’s lover would have the conflicted feelings of affection coupled with insecurity.
Relationships based mainly on personal attraction, especially those that are outside the mainstream, require special caution, attention and tactful reserve.
To overcome any relationship difficulties and achieve longevity, remain mindful of the possible extremes of such an attraction and the transitory nature of the relationship. Such is an irony of life — that the happiest people are the ones who have what they want and who want what they have.
It is never easier to make disastrous mistakes than when you venture outside the bounds of propriety. If you assert yourself too much, or try to make yourself indispensable, you will incur misfortune. If you are in doubt as to whether you should follow your heart or your head, allow for some time to pass, and perhaps the answer will become clear. Initiating action right now could bring misfortune, so do not attempt to be too creative or to attract favorable attention. At the same time, allowing yourself to drift aimlessly is also a mistake. The traditional analogy for this hexagram was the delicate situation of the marrying maiden, making the transition from girl to woman.